Hypervigilance and Domestic Abuse

A common finding in a domestic abuse situation is hypervigilance. It’s called fight or flight and is a chemical reaction in your body to stimuli that puts the person in a state of massive fear, like jumping out of an airplane without a parachute. You get stuck there till you believe your risk of harm […]

Stop Domestic Abuse

The hardest part when I broke the silence of the domestic abuse that had been going on for over eight years, the people I thought would be there to help me through, ran for the hills while calling me a bitch, some even blamed me for the abuse that happened others accused my son and […]

Count Your Blessings?

People often say “count your blessings” but how many of us actually do that? Well today I am going too, how about you? I am blessed to have found my twin flame in Matt, he spoils me in ways that money can’t buy. He treats me as a lady and loves me so I feel […]

Latest and Greatest

After the last admission on January 17th, a lot has occurred. Thankfully I get to say, some in my favor. The news is mixed and full of silver linings from my perspective. Dr. Condon is amazing, and I am so grateful to have him caring for me now. He has gotten the pain under control […]

Breast Cancer, Family, and Friends, the truth about loss.

A survivor in one of my groups had posted one of the statements below, the remarks were astounding. I had my past now dead and buried, however; we have sadly found we have to keep revisiting it. We do so not to revisit the hurt but to draw from it the words to help the […]

Live Our Lives

Sometimes, we need to get the stink of life off of us. We spend our days dutifully fulfilling whatever tasks expected of us. We’re trained to note the time and date of every moment of every day. Floating through life almost seamlessly and often somewhat empty. We all face good and bad days; it is […]

A New Year, Treat Yourself With Kindness

Going through any journey can be hard, and what is easy for one, can be devastating to another. Personally, becoming more mindful of myself had to come before anything or other people. Within months of my breast cancer diagnosis, I had lost my home, seen the end of what was my life since age 16. […]

“The Patient” Part 2

When you first enter the world of “cancer patient” there is often the circle of “poor you” that forms. The well-meaning phrases of “I am so sorry” fall on your head like bricks. Your mortality breaths hot and heavy on the back of your neck and each soul who treats you with one foot in […]

The Manifesto of the Brave and Brokenhearted by Dr. Brene Brown

Dr. Brene Brown is an amazing writer who changed the concepts of research in mental health and wellbeing. Her works have helped many of my sister and brother warriors against Breast Cancer, Post-Mastectomy Syndrome, and reconstruction errors and failures. These scars never leave. How we persevere them in an other story. For many in my […]